#75 Relationship Pillar 3: Regulate Yourself or Wreck Your Relationship
In this episode Gareth and Matt break down why most relationship blowups come down to an untrained nervous system, not a character flaw and what to do about it.
What you'll learn:
- Triggers aren't proof of a broken relationship, they're a map pointing at what still needs healing in you.
- Kids and animals naturally express big emotions through their bodies. But as adults we learn to suppress them. This suppression is what causes relationship blow-ups.
- The four trauma responses: Fight (rage, argue), Flight (withdraw), Fix (people-please), Freeze (shut down) - and which one you default to when stressed.
- The real marker of relationship maturity: choosing to respond with awareness rather than react unconsciously.
Tools to start using:
- Notice the trigger, take a real pause, and move the energy with breath, movement, and sound.
- Get curious about which of your core wounds (abandonment, rejection, etc.) just got activated.
- Come back to the conversation once you're regulated, prioritising connection over being right.
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